"Compatibility" is complicated

Feelings always work in their own way. Complex, unpredictable, always.

When talking about life partners, I know that not everyone is compatible with each other. But only recently did I realize just how incredibly complicated it is to define the word "compatibility."

Often, feelings first surface when someone meets our standards of handsome/beautiful. Then, it moves on to:

• What is their attitude like?
  • Are they short-tempered?
  • Are they loving?
  • Are they forgiving?
  • Are they lazy?
• What is their daily life like?
  • Do they share the same interests?
  • Do they have the same hobbies?
• How do they speak?
• What is their education level?
  • Is it important to them to have the same education level?
• What is their family like?
  • Do they come from an ethnic group that only allows marriage within the same ethnicity?
  • Are their parents good people?
  • Will their parents accept me?
• What is their job?
• Where do they live?
  • Is their residence far away?
  • If far, is it reachable?
  • If far, is either of us willing to compromise?

And a series of other questions.

The questions above are just a small example of how two human beings try to match themselves with each other. Complex. That's why I once wrote:

Falling in love is a happiness.

Falling in love with the right person is a fortune.

Falling in love with the right person who also loves you back is life's perfection.

So often, when we fall in love with someone, that person doesn't love us back. Or, we fall in love, but with the wrong person—someone who is bad for us. How fortunate it is when love is directed at the right person, and they love us back.